Followers were originally a way of pooling money among the people in China. For example, when someone is getting married, relatives and friends can help with a portion of the money. Later it evolved into giving the couple a red envelope when attending a wedding banquet. Later, especially in recent years, birthdays, enrollment, full moon, housewarming, hiring, promotion, going abroad, etc. have to follow the members. A friend in my country said that in the past one or two months he has not eaten ribs or drink, "saving and making revolution", because he has received seven or eight "red fines" and one month's salary has been "forced to smile" and "dedicated." Up.
The United States also has "accomplices", but they have American characteristics. One is "low frequency". People who you can't remember their name will not send you invitations. In addition, kindergarten teachers will not send invitations to children; and the secretary of the unit leader will not let out "the leader is very busy recently-niece is getting married". The second is "fewer varieties", mainly because relatives and friends get married, celebrate birthdays, have children, or get help from others. You need to show it. The third is "a small amount of money", most of which are only equivalent to one or two hours of ordinary people's wages. In the eyes of the Chinese, it is extremely "shabby" that it cannot be taken. Americans don't like Chinese-style "red envelopes". If they want to send money, they can buy a gift card at the supermarket. Gift cards are divided into categories, such as restaurants, bookstores, and supermarkets. The amount is usually 10 yuan, 15 yuan, 20 yuan, 25 yuan, 50 yuan. This is the market for American followers.
Of course, the amount of money associated with marriage is more. Usually no cash is given. There are exceptions. Some regions inherit the customs from Poland and hold "Money dance" (Money dance) at weddings. Guests dance with the bride or groom and give a little cash to express their gratitude. Only a few dollars. So some newcomers call this "money dance" "Dime dance" (Dime dance). dime, 10 cent coins. In order not to make the guests feel "sorry for not paying," some newcomers specially put a bowl on each table and don't put the money in it, "listen and respect."
The way Americans congratulate newlyweds is mainly to buy things for the newlyweds. Friends and relatives will receive a long shopping list called the Bridal registry. American marriage expenses are “preferred to women over men” and traditionally they are borne by the woman. The bride’s registration form lists the required items in detail by categories, generally: decorations (Decor), such as vases, mirror frames, artwork, etc.; glassware (Glassware), such as coffee cups, wine glasses, drink cups, etc.; cookware (Kitchen ), such as salad blender, coffee maker, oven gloves, etc.; Bedding, such as sheets, quilts, blankets, etc.; Tableware (Dinnerware), such as plates, soup pots, sugar bowls, etc.; Bathware, such as bathrobes , Mats, scales, etc. The United States has no mother-in-law just needs, such as a house and a bride price. The groom-to-be is "debt-free and light-hearted" and usually issues a bride registration form jointly with the bride-to-be.
In 1924, the Marshalls in the United States created the first bride registration service. Later, many department stores, such as Macy's, Target, etc., provided this service. Of course, the purpose of the business is to make money, but this move does provide benefits and convenience for the relatives and friends of the bride-to-be and the followers. Now that the Internet is developed, the bride’s registration form is online, which is more convenient and trouble-free. The Americans are practical. A registration form and accompanying items are non-repetitive necessities.
The objective social benefit of the bride's registration form is that it promotes a good ethos of “little courtesy and affection. The items on the registration form are not expensive, a few dollars or tens of dollars each, which will never affect the daily expenses of gift-giving relatives and friends, and also cut the way for some people to earn money.
Some newcomers imitate the Chinese and receive gifts. The bride registration form is not issued. Instead, a "Honeymoon registry" (Honeymoon registry) is used. The gift money is used for honeymoon; Lei Feng couples issue a "Charity registry" (Charity registry) and the gift money is transferred to charity.
According to statistics, on average, each couple in the United States receives 200 gifts, each worth 70 to 100 dollars. Some of them are still given in "groups", that is, several people put them together. Therefore, Americans will never "frugal and revolutionize" because of marriage.
(The article comes from the Internet)