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Playing tricks, in fact, the internal friction is particularly large. People's energy is limited, and it's all used for the mind, and not used to strengthen one's own ability to do things successfully. Isn't that stupid or what?

Two days ago, I saw a friend in the circle of friends wrote this paragraph: "The older I am, the more I feel that those who are mentally gloomy, scheming, and full of conspiracy theories are because of insufficient intelligence. This It is roughly the opposite of what I knew when I was a child. Despite individual differences, as a whole, people who are smart enough and better evolved tend to choose fairness and justice, and are more likely to be honest and kind."

I very much agree with this passage, and I quickly like it. I remember that the first time I heard someone say that "kindness is really smart" was when I was 21 years old. At that time, I had just started working. Facing various office politics and stumbling between colleagues, I didn't know how to deal with it. I felt that society was gloomy and unpopular all day long.

Until one day, when I was angry enough by a clever colleague, a senior who was much older than me said this to me: "Don't care about them. You are different from them. You are kind. Really smart!"

At that time, in addition to being grateful, I also had a feeling of being stunned as if being enlightened by an expert.

Later, after so many years of workplace experience, I became more and more convinced of this sentence. Maybe you have had such troubles before, I am so kind, what should I do when others treat me as bullying and stupid? !

First of all, you have to understand that if you are good at bullying, it is not that there is something wrong with your kindness, but your weak and fearful personality. If you bully yourself and dare not express your anger, then others will of course think that you are good bully. And if you are not too good at doing things due to incomplete consideration, for example, too reckless, too direct, and too impulsive, it is not a question of kindness, you just committed a stupid, no wonder others !

Playing tricks, in fact, the internal friction is particularly large. First of all, he has to think about calculations; then he has to fabricate lies; then he has to pretend; then if he is seen behind the scheming, he has to think about how to deal with the aftermath and how to smooth it out. People's energy is limited, and it's all used for the mind, and not used to strengthen one's own ability to do things successfully. Isn't that stupid or what?

Kind, pragmatic, serious, hardworking, and knows to consider others, but knows how to protect oneself, knows to safeguard one's own rights and interests, there are boundaries and principles, who would not be willing to cooperate? Then of course there are more chances of success, what do you think?

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