Low profile is ruining your life
Author: Uncle nanchuan | Source: Uncle nanchuan (ID: nanCSS)
At the beginning of the new year, many people made new year wishes in their circle of friends. Some wanted to get a promotion this year, some wanted to lose weight, and some wanted to be admitted to graduate school...
However, there are only 2018 days left in 33. Some people should still go to bed, swipe their mobile phones, and live a low-quality life that has no requirements for themselves and no goals.
A few days ago, my friend Lin Xiang asked me if I could recommend him a job. I was very puzzled. A man who had worked in the last company for nearly 5 years, how could he not do it?
He embarrassedly said that he was fired by the company.
It turned out that when Lin Xiang first joined the company, he was a young man full of enthusiasm. He worked hard at everything and did his best to assign tasks. After working for two years, he was recognized by the department leader and was promoted to team leader. Lin Xiang is very proud and is ready to do a lot in this post.
But later he discovered that the supervisor of the same level did not work as hard as he did every day, and still sat in this position securely. He began to waver, why did he work so hard?
Like the position, the salary is similar, so it's not as easy as everyone else.
As a result, he started to commute on time, assigned most of the work to his subordinates, sitting in front of the computer, swiping on Weibo and watching movies.
At that time I reminded him:Don't stay in your comfort zone for a long time, you won't be able to get out at that time.
As a result, in one word.
In the fourth year, the company started layoffs on a large scale, and all employees who failed to meet the work standards within 3 months were fired.
Lin Xiang began to panic and was about to regain his strength, but found that the life of eating and waiting for death had been carved into his bones.
After working for less than an hour, he couldn't help but start to browse the circle of friends, and the plans he made were always rejected by all the staff. He had too much thinking and could not keep up with the rhythm of the company, and it was inevitable to be fired.
One of the signs that a person is beginning to abolish is that he is unwilling to step out of his comfort zone and live for granted under lower and lower configurations.
Some people say that society is realistic, and if you don’t have a background, you won’t have a bright future. Others say, isn’t it good for me to have a leisurely life like this?
The most fearful thing is that you have been doing nothing in your life and comforting yourself is ordinary and precious.
In addition to low-quality jobs, more people have low-quality lives.
In a big city, the way to ruin a person is particularly simple: give you a small space, a network cable, and preferably a takeaway phone, and then the person is ruined.
At the class reunion some time ago, I met Wen Jia who hadn't seen him for a long time.
She was one of the few beautiful girls in our class when she was a student. Now she is only in her early thirties and she is like a middle-aged woman.
After chatting with her, I realized that after graduation, she didn't want to be an office worker, but wanted to stay at home. Later, she quit her job and returned to the small county, relying on her parents to help her, plus a little income from doing a micro business.
The county is full of older people, she has no friends, she lives at home and rarely goes out to communicate with others.During the day, I was asleep and full of energy at night. I often watch movies all night and eat all kinds of junk food uncontrollably.
Maybe it was because she hadn't communicated with people for too long. When she talked to her, her eyes were always erratic and careless, and her whole face was too bad.
This low-quality long-term home life completely changed her mind and appearance, and even her later life.
Nietzsche said:"Every day that I have never danced is a disappointment to life."
When a person is satisfied with the status quo, does the same thing day after day, and no longer takes time to improve himself, the low-quality life will always be with you.
I saw a piece of news before that a 34-year-old woman graduated with a master's degree. She is still a photographer and her parents are intellectuals.
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But when she went to a blind date, all she suffered was ridicule:
"Master's degree is useless, a woman without talent is virtue"
"In your situation, it is quite difficult to match"
Another middle-aged man compared her to a beautiful house in the suburbs:
"Here, a man is a bank card, you can buy a house if you have money, so a woman is a real estate. Look at her, she looks good, and has never been married. This room type is okay. But she is older, so Her house is in the suburbs."
I also happen to have a female master's degree. As long as she has free time, she is either on the way to the blind date or at the blind date table. I persuaded her that since she is unwilling to go, she will be over.
The female master said: "There is no way. My parents always say that although I have a high degree of education, but I am older after all, I feel that way, in my early 30s, there is really no way out.
I couldn’t find a suitable one, so I lowered my requirements.If you don’t go on a blind date, you will have to be picked by the worse ones in the future."
After listening to it, I was ashamed, just because I am getting older, can a high-quality master student only choose low-quality love? Just because you are getting older, do you blindly lower your requirements and let your love and marriage be greatly reduced?
Even if the blind date is successful and the two enter into marriage, the low-quality marriage status is even more tormenting.
Some people think that getting married means that two people live together, just like everyone else. In fact, after getting married, you really discover:A marriage without love is a cage of heart.
With responsibilities and obligations, if you don't love, you have to obey his parents, give birth to him, and run errands for his family. The two people's life is not as good as being single.
This is a low-quality life, low requirements, low standards, and low goals.
You want to show your ambitions in your job, and after hitting a wall a few times, you think it doesn’t matter. As long as you can pay your wages on time, it will do.
You want to go to fitness, learn to cook, and live a refined life, but you still feel comfortable lying on the bed if you don’t insist on it for a few days.
You think about marrying love and don't want to broaden your own social relations. Later, when you get older, your family is rushed again, and you just think about it, and find something similar.
You are always lowering your standards, and always try to be the next best thing, thinking that you will live better this way, but you actually lose more.
Cai Kangyong once said a very famous sentence:
"When I was 15 years old, I found it difficult to swim, so I gave up swimming. When I was 18 years old, I met someone you like and asked you to go swimming. You had to say I wouldn't;
At the age of 18, I felt that English was difficult and gave up English. At the age of 28, I found a job that was great but must be able to understand English.
The more troublesome you are in the early part of your life, the more lazy you are to learn, the more likely you are to miss the people and things that fascinate you and the new scenery. "
So, don't always stay in the comfort zone and refuse to take the first step. Maybe you will find different scenery and the wonderful life of high-profile life if you try it.
Even if you are old, even if you are not capable enough, as long as you are willing to work hard, a high-quality life will always belong to you