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钱灏吃了不少苦,他不愿离开北京的一大原因,就是希望儿子的“起跑线”更高一些,不再走自己的老路——但随。。。

钱灏吃了不少苦,他不愿离开北京的一大原因,就是希望儿子的“起跑线”更高一些,不再走自己的老路——但随着儿子和他一样,成为了一名骑手,钱灏的希望落空了。

“子承父业”,往往是父辈对下一代最大的期待,但在骑手的江湖,这却是一个例外。在北漂近20年的时间里,钱灏做了很多努力,在工地,他一个人干两个人的活,他省吃俭用、开小店,做买卖、做闪送……期待着将儿子培养成才,在写字楼里谋得一份体面的工作。

2020,这是让钱灏深感失望的一年。四处求职无果的儿子钱坤,终于还是踏上了他的老路,成为了一名骑手。

腾讯新闻《中国人的一天》推出2021春节特别策划“骑手江湖”,今天推出第二期:父子骑手的故事。

In the morning of December, the father and son packed up their gear and prepared to set off.

In 2020, Qian Hao will be 50 years old.

When chatting with people, he often missed the youth time spent in his hometown of Xiaogan, Hubei Province. It was his most carefree day.There, he married Wu Jianhua, a girl from the same village, and gave birth to his son Qian Kun. They had their own business, stable income, and a promising future.

因为生意失败,2002年,32岁的钱灏带着妻儿来到北京,开始了漫长的漂泊生活。

那时钱灏还有力气,他跟着老乡在工地打零工,“一开始每天只有25元,我一个人干两个人的活,拿双份工钱”,勉强够家里开支。

Qian Hao is willing to endure hardships, love to study, learn by doing, move, welder, civil engineering, big and small work, is a well-known talent on the construction site, once had his own engineering team.

妻子吴建华再次交代丈夫要注意安全。

钱灏认为自己最大的缺点,是“缺乏生意头脑”,所以常吃亏。

他曾离开工地,用攒下来的钱去开商店、做买卖,“想过得轻松一点”,但无一不是以亏本结尾,又回到了工地。

2016年6月,46岁的钱灏从工地高处摔下,伤了脊椎骨,再没法干重体力活。伤好之后,四处求职碰壁的他,第一次陷入了“中年危机”的恐慌。

出发前,钱灏、钱坤提出想照一张合影。

“家里的开销,一天比一天大,物价也在往上涨”,初到北京时,房租才一百块,现在已过千,而这几乎是他在北京能租到的最便宜的房了。

生活没有留给钱灏太多焦虑的时间,眼前的吃喝才是燃眉之急。2017年底,他成为一名“闪送”.

Life begins again.

22nd move

妻子吴建华在厨房烧菜,油烟跑满了整个出租屋。

In 18 years of Northern Drifting, Qian Hao moved 22 times.

他印象最深刻的一个“家”,位于北京东北角的白家村,这里曾经人气兴旺,铁轨穿村而过,钱灏一家就居住在铁道桥洞旁的平房里。

如今钱灏送单,偶尔路过白家村,一大片绿化带、影视文化园和森林公园,覆盖了他曾有的记忆。只有那个仅存的桥洞,能让钱灏记起它曾经的样子,“那是我们最安稳的一段日子”,在桥洞旁,钱灏开了一家小店,比在工地挣钱多。

“如果就那样过着,现在生活应该也不错”,钱灏说,但在2008年金融危机打击下,小店生意一落千丈,被迫关门。

钱灏还没收工,妻儿在等他回家吃饭。

钱灏曾经的那些“家”,现在已变成写字楼、商圈、公园或新的工地,留给他的,只有些许模糊的回忆。

In 2020, Qian Hao moved four times.

Now, he lives in an apartment renovated from a private house outside the East Fourth Ring Road. A family of three shares a room, which is not spacious but still warm.Qian Hao said that when he was young, the husband and wife were busy with their livelihoods, and they often locked their son at home alone, with no small partners and no one to speak with him.

Qian Hao felt deeply responsible for this.He believes that his son's introverted character was formed at that time.

也算半个“北京人”?

收工后,钱坤大部分时间都在玩手机。

收谈起儿子的过去和未来,钱灏忍不住流泪。

这些年,钱灏吃了不少苦,他不愿离开北京的一大原因,就是希望儿子的“起跑线”更高一些,将来出人头地,不再走自己的老路——但随着儿子和他一样,成为了一名骑手,钱灏的希望落空了。

与乐观豁达的父亲不同,钱坤生性节俭、谨慎,面对生人略显腼腆。这种性格的养成,来自家庭教育的潜移默化。

“有钱了不要一次花完,用一半,存一半”,这是父母给他上的第一堂理财课,生在一个贫寒的家庭,未雨绸缪是必要的意识。

钱坤接受了“不要跟同学比吃穿,要比学习”的教诲,也过早地明白了父母的不易,但在敏感的青春期,过于窘迫的日子,依然在他心中留下了难以抹去的印迹。

钱坤拿出从小到大在音乐方面获得的奖状。

When he was in junior high school, the teacher of the school's folk orchestra asked Qian Kun to choose between Erhu and Dizi. He did not hesitate and chose Dizi because it was cheap.

Qian Kun inherited his father's love for music and grew up to be the chief flute of the school folk band. The occasional performance on stage was a rare highlight in his youth.

在北京生活十多年后,钱坤自以为已算半个“北京人”,但在高中的一次班会上,老师的一句话,又把他打回了现实,“外地的同学,你们在这儿上学不能高考,趁早回老家上学吧”。

钱坤明白,老师并非针对他,但这句话依然让他感觉到,一道无形的线,把他和同学们隔开了。这条线变得越来越宽,当同学们讨论旅行、名牌和明星时,钱坤总是插不进嘴,只能躲得远远的,落下了“不合群”的名声。

Facing the difficult problem of reading, his father Qian Hao is also anxious.

College entrance examination missed

12月,钱坤骑行北京的辅路上。

作为外来务工人员子弟,钱坤无法在京参加高考,而在北京读高中,还得交三万元“借读费”。

钱灏不是没想过把儿子送回老家,但如果那样,钱坤又得当留守少年,学习更无法保障。
思前想后,钱灏夫妻决定凑一笔借读费,让儿子在北京上学,期待未来政策有所转变。

儿子升高中那年,钱灏在工地拼命干活,下工了也不再和工友们下馆子,一门心思攒钱,“我有个包,包里装着钱。我背着这个包,从这个工地干到那个工地,攒够三万,就给儿子学校送去了”。

然而,转机并没有出现,在同学们参加高考时,钱坤回到了家里,“如果当时能参加高考,上一个普通本科应该是没问题的”。

Although with the support of his parents, Qian Kun applied for the adult college entrance examination and obtained an adult education undergraduate diploma, but he soon discovered that this diploma was completely uncompetitive in the recruitment market in Beijing.

“去年难得有一家公司约我面试,一看我身份证的湖北籍贯,也就没了下文”。

12月底是钱坤25岁的生日,吴建华为儿子准备了一个特别的庆生环节——到KTV唱歌。

“生活不止眼前的苟且,还有诗和远方的田野”,当儿子的歌声响起,钱灏和吴建华也在包厢里欢快地翩翩起舞,这是一家人最为轻松的时光。

Wu Jianhua likes to listen to his son singing, but now his son seldom sings at home, playing mobile games has become his biggest pastime.

父子二人相遇在红绿灯路口。

After working in a spicy hot pot restaurant and a milk tea shop, in 2020, Qian Kun decided to join his father as a takeaway rider.

刚入行的钱坤,常遭到父亲批评,认为他不适合当骑手,“过于稳重,不懂变通”,比如在外面跑单子,只要绿灯不亮,即使前面没车,钱坤也不往前挪半步。

Qian Hao is old, but his brain is as flexible as when he was young. After each order, he did not rush to set off, but first studied the map and optimized the route. He did not use the rack car as a navigation like other riders, but always Can arrive in the shortest time.

But Qian Hao rarely teaches these skills to his son. What he doesn't want to admit is that the criticism of his son is actually a criticism of himself. It is difficult for him to accept that his son has gone his own way.

2020年的冬天异常寒冷,钱灏骑着摩托车绕四环送单,呼啸的寒风刮得脸生疼,他盯着覆盖着玻璃幕墙的写字楼,“我以前常想,我们家钱坤,要是在里面上班就好了”。

“至少里面有空调嘛”。

Sing at the rider dinner

2020年底,钱灏一家参加了一场“骑手饭局”。

This is the largest dinner party in the Beijing rider circle, and it is especially attractive to single young riders.

But the purpose of Qian Hao's participation is more to broaden his son's social circle and get familiar with him, hoping to get the care of his seniors.He hopes that his son can speak up at the dinner and impress everyone.

At the end of the dinner, some riders have already started to leave. After being partially persuaded by their parents, Qian Kun finally got on the stage, but as soon as the beginning of a song was sung, the sound was turned off and the props on the stage were removed .

Qian Kun put on the mask again and put down the microphone, feeling a little at a loss.

Qian Hao was in a hurry, stepped away from the crowd, found the organizer, and begged his son to finish singing.

骑手饭局上,钱坤发现自己很受欢迎。

父母在台下录视频。

吴建华打扮得很漂亮,她说自己本不愿意流泪。

After Qian Kun sang one song, in response to everyone's enthusiastic request, he returned to sing two more songs.Off the stage, Qian Hao used his mobile phone to take a video of his son, and his wife Wu Jianhua next to him shed tears.

Every time she moved home, Wu Jianhua would throw away some things, but she kept Qian Kun's flute, drums and electronic organ, as well as large and small awards.Wu Jianhua still has a little thought, these things will be used by his son in the future.

当儿子在饭局上放声高歌时,吴建华的情绪有点失控,那个熟悉的儿子,似乎又回来了。钱坤说,他依然喜欢唱歌,只是不喜欢当着人唱歌,“在送单的路上,我就经常唱”,这让他觉得很自由,很自我。

一家三口合影。

他理解父亲对他的严厉,也理解父亲人到中年的左右为难,父亲其实是个软心肠的人,“他一边惦记老家的爷爷,想着早一点回去尽孝,但他又舍不得把我丢在北京”。

“我爸老说我把话压心底,其实他压得更多”,钱坤说。

A few years ago, Qian Hao bought a house in Wuhan and repaid the loan little by little.Qian Kun plans to earn more money in the new year to take up the pressure of repayment.

钱坤希望,爸妈能安心回老家养老,至于自己,“干几年骑手,还完贷款后再谋别的出路”。
再之后呢?钱坤也回答不上来,“爸妈在哪儿,我就在哪儿吧”。

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