Cooking during the day and sleeping at night: This special industry reveals the unbearable truth of millions of elderly people
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I recently came across a new word: bed sitter.
At first glance, the three views are shattered, and after understanding it, it is thought-provoking.
What is a bed sitter?
Unlike ordinary nanny, they not only provide housekeeping services, but also provide sexual services.
The objects of care are generally elderly people.
A reporter went to the housekeeping company to make an unannounced visit, saying that he wanted to find a babysitter for the elderly in their 70s.
The person in charge of the housekeeping company said that the general nanny service, that is, washing and cooking, cleaning and sanitation, is more than 3000 yuan a month.
But if you add 1000 yuan a month, you can provide "personal services" for the elderly, cooking during the day and sleeping with them at night.
In their words:"How happy the old man is, just like being a wife".
当陪床保姆的一般都是四五十岁的中年Women，来自周边的农村，这些保姆基本都是单身离异，家里孩子也不管她们，她们丝毫不在意做的是什么事，只抱着赚钱的态度。What's amazing is that many children have acquiesced to the existence of bed sitters.They think that they are not around the old man anyway, and find a companion for the old man, even if they have done their filial piety.But they don't know that accompany the bed sitter, can also become the old man's erotic trap.A 70-year-old professor in Jiangsu was cheated of 30 by a 50-year-old babysitter.老教授的子女因为工作繁忙，所以经常不在家里，在小保姆李某的照料下，慢慢对她产生了感情。At home, the two are known as their husbands and wives, and the old man also handed over the economic power of the family to Li.没想到李某不但没为老人打理钱财，还开始了高额消费的生活，每天出入的场所都是高档场所，买的东西都是名牌货。甚至还把老人的房子抵押出去，In exchange for钱财供自己挥霍。If it weren't for the old man's children to see through it, I'm afraid it would be a drain on the old man's family.There is also a 92-year-old retired teacher who hired a 35-year-old nanny Cai.Cai's careful attention has made the elderly very satisfied.After a while, Cai said that he had a relationship with the old man and wanted to get married.After some thoughts, the old man agreed.Half a month after the marriage, the old man transferred the only real estate under his own name to Cai.Just after the house was transferred, Cai's attitude changed.她开始长时间地离家，对老人的态度也冷漠起来。老人不得不给她汇去了5万块钱，才换回她回家一趟。Unexpectedly, as soon as she returned home, she punched and kicked the old man, claiming that the old man had an "affair."经检查，老人身上多处骨折，要留院治疗。Cai was also detained by the police.
The victimized old man still did not get sympathy from netizens
This is a nanny, it is clearly a fraudulent marriage + domestic violence.The risk of accompany the bed sitter is that they have no relationship with the elderly, but a pure interest relationship.After all, what can't be done for the benefit of people?所以我会旗帜鲜明地反对陪床保姆的存在：不仅仅因为这可能违反法律，更是对elderly人困境的漠视和粗暴应对。牡丹江市老龄办某科长表示，“陪床保姆”真正映射出来的，是elderly生存状态中的几大难题：elderly空巢、elderly再婚难、长者性困境。People often just look at the chaos of the bed sitter as curious news.在困境中挣扎的千万elderly人，却无人关心。In fact:elderly人的性，是一个长期被忽视的社会问题。BeautyCountry杜克大学对 66 到 71 岁老人的调查发现，对性有兴趣的男性为 90%，女性为 50%；According to research by sexologist Kinsey, 94% of men and 84% of women still have sex after 60 years of age.Even if they are older, they have desires and have more rights to enjoy the beauty of sex.This is not an old hooligan, nor is it shameless.但在我们的社会中，对这一点讳莫如深。We always believe that old people should be kind and amiable.But they often overlook that they also have the most primitive desire to be born.这就造成了很多elderly人都处于压抑状态，也是陪床保姆出现的一大原因。When depression and sexual desire exist at the same time, think about it, what will it bring?It is out of control and chaos.在滁州，一位73岁的老人Prostitute被抓；现场还有另一位67岁老人在排队等候。在温州苍南，警方捣毁一处设在养猪场里的卖淫窝点，现场抓获6名卖淫女和3名Prostitute人员；Prostitute人员里年龄最大的75岁。elderly人到又脏又臭的猪圈“买春”，其性需求的迫切无需赘言。在一些公园或树林的僻静处，很多四五十岁的Women, Designed forelderly人提供性服务。一到入夜时分，生意便络绎不绝。In 2016, ICountryOfelderly男性艾滋病患者 1.3 万例，是 2010 年的 3.6 倍。80% of them have had prostitutes.When I saw these news, I was shocked and lamented.是什么把我们的elderly人，逼到这种地步了？In the documentary channel of Netease News, there is a story that impressed me.
An old man often went to the "Fireworks Alley" to buy spring, but he did not change after repeated teaching, which caused a headache for the community police.His neighbors and family members are bored with him.反倒是常常接待他的“Miss”表示同情。她说老人早就失去了大部分性能力，每次过来只是抱着她，聊聊天。Because the children of the elderly are always away, and his wife has passed away early, sometimes it is all alone during the New Year.反倒是常被光顾的“Miss”，还能耐心地听他唠叨几句。陈晓楠主持的节目《和陌生人说话》，有一期聚焦在了北京的菖蒲河公园，那里是elderly人的相亲角。与年轻人的相亲不同，elderly人的相亲常常直奔主题。When you meet the person you like, say a few nice love words, talk a few pornographic paragraphs to make you laugh, if you feel it, continue to develop, and if you don't feel it, you will find the next one.An uncle surnamed Hu had looked for a number of objects there, and proudly said that he could "four times a day".But when asked about the reasons for frequent blind dates, he said rather sadly:"You don't know how lonely a person is.As long as I stayed in this room, the TV was turned on overnight, and the lights were all on.Often turn on the TV to fall asleep.Isn't it scared? Isn't it annoying to be alone? Every day, I wake up at four or five o'clock and the TV is still on."当一个老人离群索居，失去了world的温暖，失去了对未来的期盼，他还剩下什么呢？It seems that there is only the most primitive desire.Physiological needs are always easy to solve.How can I fill the void in my heart?will get data显示，2000至2010年十年间，中Country城镇空巢老人比例由42%上升到54%，农村由37.9%升到45.6%。2013年中Country空巢老人人口超过1亿。Perhaps it is not desire that really erode and torment the elderly.It's loneliness.I often feel that the loneliness young people talk about is actually pediatrics.Because we still have countless tomorrows and infinitely possible futures.butelderlyWhat about people?When you can see the end of life at a glance, loneliness has become a particularly terrible thing.The most extreme ending is nothing more than a person dying in an empty room, no one knows, until it emits an unpleasant smell...这种可怖的景象，已经在Aging严重的日本出现。在日本，每年有3万人孤零零地死在家中。This phenomenon is called "death alone."This also gave birth to a new industry: special cleaning companies, employees are called "solitary cleaners"Entrusted by the housekeeper or relatives of the deceased, the cleaners wear protective clothing and breathing equipment, and are responsible for tidying up the room, organizing relics, cleaning and disinfecting.In one case, when the cleaner arrived, the deceased had become a skeleton.The deceased was 62 years old, with limited mobility and no work. The water, electricity and gas at home had been shut down for many years.由于老人长期独处，在社区毫无存在感，连管理员都极少见过他。死后两个月，还是邻居闻到了臭味，才最终被发现。The most sad thing is that the old man also wrote a note:"Administrator, please help me."But this desperate cry finally didn't come out of the room where he died.尽管这只是个别案例，但成千上万孤独的elderly人，又能好到哪里去呢？卡罗琳·亚伯拉罕斯曾经这样说过：“简单的与人打招呼是我们大多数人认为理所当然的事情，是每天生活的一部分。但最新的data显示，英CountryTens of thousandselderly人都是孤独一人，没有人可以分享，哪怕只是几句简单的话。”所以我理解那些被保健品，养生讲座等五花八门骗术骗取金钱的elderlypeople.Although a liar is a liar, at least he can lie and ask warmth.Perhaps for the elderly, a person who can speak is more important than money.After thinking about it, this is not a great sorrow.Of course, we must resolutely resist such illegal and chaotic phenomena as bed sitters.但我们更应该看到的，是这背后数千万“孤独等死”的elderlyDilemma.Such a dilemma exists around us, even our loved ones.It is everywhere, but it is not inevitable.If we can give more care to the elderly, some love.Chat with them, chat home, play mahjong, watch dramas.I think they are already very satisfied.毕竟，在人之间，才叫worldNa